We are all transitioning always. For most, changes of appearance and mentality can be more subtle and nuanced, but at the heart of it, the difference between dying your hair a different colour and gender transition lies in other people’s fixations.
The most astounding and painful things can happen almost simultaneously when you’re trans. Someone writes a few words of praise that bring out a rare and searing blush… and then a heartbeat later, the tears come unbidden, earnest and devastating.
It’s because, you know, no matter how much they appeal to you, being trans is one of the hardest hurdles to overcome.
